Sunday, December 31, 2017

New Year: Taking Charge

The Four Elements:

🌲🌲 Earth: Home and hearth, the physical body; physical health.

🌈🌈 Air: The mind, thought, observation; mental health.

πŸ”₯πŸ”₯ Fire: The spirit, action, passion; spiritual health.

πŸ’§πŸ’§ Water: Love, emotions, the heart; emotional health.

Time is a funny thing isn't it? Some moments feel like they will never end; yet now that 2018 is just around the corner, it feels as though time really slipped away from me again this year. Do you notice that, more so as you age? When I was in my 20's, it never even bothered me! I seemed to have all of the time in the world! I'm rounding 50 years old (eek) and my plans are to live well past 100 so I'm trying to have a better outlook...instead of thinking of time flying, I figure I have plenty of time left. :)

A new year brings the temptation for resolutions. Nix that! I was never a resolution gal. I like to think of self-improvement on a daily basis. But a new year is also a very good time to reflect on the last 12 months and assess if you are on the right path and if all of the choices you are making result in improving your life and your happiness.

Sometimes, a certain aspect of your life can seem out of control - and it's not always obvious what the root of this chaos is. During the last 3 months, my life was out of control after our friend, or former friend, I'm still on the fence...dropped his 2 dogs off and never came back. You all know how challenging that was for me and for Alex. Our routines were messed up, our finances took a hit, our peace of mind and tranquility disappeared. Alex developed pretty bad insomnia and my anxiety was through the roof.

I drew cards many times for help and advice. The element of water came up each and every time over the last few months. I knew that my emotions were in need of help but couldn't figure out how to help myself. Finally, I asked a different question to my Tarot deck and drew a fire card. Suddenly the light bulb moment happened. To restore my emotions, I need to restore my spirit. My biggest issue is being a people pleaser. It's not a good thing, though it sounds like it is. The problem is that I routinely put myself LAST. It does nobody any good, especially myself. I guess some bad habits born out of my upbringing will always stick with me. I have to always remind myself that I matter too and that my needs are just as important!

It's not the first time I've neglected my spirit and felt wackily out of balance! Once I dedicated some time each day to my spiritual health, poof! My emotions calmed, my aches and pains lessened and my mind stopped running me in circles. After I was able to find balance, Alex was able to stop worrying about me and he found balance too. The eight fur-kids are all getting along now, we love them all so much, we have a good attitude and we are being very firm in our decisions - we have a plan and we're sticking to it! It feels good! :)

Are you out of balance at the end of this year? Do you need to take charge of any area of your life?  Are you on the right path for you? Do you need a little guidance? Think about the elements and what they represent. I can draw an element card for you if you wish, then you can think about how this element represents something that you need to take charge of!

πŸŽ‰ Happy New Year to everyone! I wish you all health, happiness, prosperity, peace of mind and love! πŸŽ‰


Pam Jackson said...

Hey Rain~ I am so glad that you have found what you need to do for YOU. There is nothing wrong with being a people pleaser if it is not hurting you, your family, your peace of mind or you health. But, keep in mind, there is nothing wrong with NOT pleasing others at certain times. In reply to the questions on your blog...It is really hard to figure out what I need to take control cause the one thing that I have to really take control of is my FIBRO. It is hard to do that when there is really no way of controlling it. I think the biggest and best thing I can do that is have a stronger mind set. I have to work harder to not let it get the better of me, learn to work through the rough days more. Element that needs the most work would probably be earth and air. First step....have a good ole fashion talk with myself I guess...haha. To continue into success to do all this....mind set. I really just need to find a way to not give into the pain so much....fatigue, I am not sure there is a way around that. Thank you Rain, I have enjoyed my year with you and your blogs. Learning more about you, your life and your pets. HAPPY NEW YEAR!

Plowing Through Life (Martha) said...

It seems to be fairly common for women to put others ahead of themselves. Perhaps it has to do with us having a very strong nurturing side. But when we do it a level that affects our emotional, physical and mental health, it's time to re-evaluate. I'm so pleased that you have found a good balance. It is important to make yourself a priority. If you are not healthy and happy, there is nothing for you to give to others. There is a lot of love and joy in your home and you are a major contributor to that. I enjoy all that you have to share, and I especially love learning about you and your lovely family. I wish you all a healthy and joyful New Year!

And yes, please draw an element card for me. I'm so curious to see what it'll be!

wisps of words said...

I missed this post!!!!!!! :-(((((((

I can't afford to miss any. Your posts are full to the brim, with Wisdom.

As to the "Time Thing"... Time is an issue, always. And being 80, it could really mess me up, if I let it bug me, that it is going so fast. So... I don't. I really try to keep the Wisdom, that all we have is NOW! Bingo. No more time-running-away angst. :-)

I know it sounds trite. "Everyone" says, all we have is now. But! It is!!!

I will have to come back to this one, and chat more, about it. Dinner time now! I baked the potato and my husband is doing the hamburgers. Simple food tonight! -grin-

Rain said...

Thanks Pam :) You are right about the people pleasing. Unfortunately for me though, it stems from a need to please to feel loved and valued. Though I'm aware of it, sometimes it still gets a little out of control. And it's my issue, because I get so much love and appreciation from Alex and the pets and my's really something I need to work on and keep reminding myself NOT to do to the extreme!

Having an illness you can't's very hard. You have to tweak every area of your life. And having more strength is a wonderful way to help you through the low times. I really think if we build up our positivity and courage it helps us deal with the down days much better. I wish you strength this year Pam!! :) xx

Rain said...

Thanks Martha :) I agree, it's our nurturing, emotional side that tempts we gals to try a little too hard to please. But if you're in the right place in your life, have confidence and feel love from your family and friends...why? Ingrained! :) I'm working hard on that! I started a yoga program just before Christmas and I'm keeping up with it. It's helping me put myself first. I will definitely draw your element card today! :)

Rain said...

Thank you Wisps of Words :) I've been a bit post-happy lately lol...but it's all part of nurturing my spirituality, which is something that I have decided is a priority in my life now. I used to just "find time" for it, but now it's incorporated throughout my day and I feel so much better! :)

You are so right about keeping in the now, especially as we age. We have no control over aging at all. I think that once we find acceptance that life is what it is, we can really enjoy it much more! Good for you for tossing away that angst!! Oooh, hope you enjoyed your burgers! I'm craving chicken burgers lately, I'll have to put that on the next menu plan! :)