Saturday, January 27, 2018

Going Through A Rough Time


Some of my friends have been going through some challenges lately. These challenges are affecting their spirit and my heart goes out to you. :) It seems that this time of year brings some sadness to a lot of people - I've observed this lately and it makes me wonder what it is about the dead of winter that brings about rough times.

I know from experience that winter is not the best season for me to face a challenge. I get cabin fever and my joints and bones ache until April. Despite the cozy home I have made, I sometimes feel trapped. Add some kind of outside difficulty to the equation and it makes life very challenging!

Just remember, we weren't meant to climb glass mountains. Identifying what is out of your control and what is in your power to change; and accepting these things as truth can help you to be more understanding with yourself, give yourself a break and learn something new about yourself.

Choices can be difficult and we have every right to ponder them, and to feel every range of emotion these choices bring! But be kind to yourself. Make the courageous decision not to allow any negative emotion to linger. Life is too short and you deserve all the happiness in the world! :)

20 comments:

Toni said...

It is strange how much harder it is to handle simple challenges, let alone the big, heavy ones, in winter!

It's not just the lack of sunlight but I find that the cloud cover, lurking just above the trees is a little claustrophobic! It's like being a big person in a Hobbit's world!

Before we started putting full-spectrum bulbs in the kitchen, next to my chair and on my side of the bed, I would go so crazy that by Mid-March I thought I might kill someone, anyone! (Maybe, that's where the real 'Ides of March' originated!)

It is easier to slough off negative energy when sitting in my big chair with the lamp on! Though, not as easy as sitting by the pool with my feet in the water on a hot summer's day!

I agree with you, life is too short to allow shadows to linger!

By the way, The look of your blog is so peaceful. I like to come here and just imagine being at this lake!

Plowing Through Life (Martha) said...

This is a tough time of year for many. I know I'm not at my best, especially if I have things to deal with. Too cold, not enough daylight (although it is getting better), no greenery, etc. And cabin fever. Let's not forget about that. It's hard to keep from losing your mind! LOL But I try work through it by keeping busy and looking within. Before you know it, spring will be here :)

wisps of words said...

"...we weren't meant to climb glass mountains."

"But be kind to yourself."

I love those lovely sentences....

Oh thank you so much!!!! You have a pop up comment box now. And I can seeee everything, on which I am commenting. Hugs, hugs, hugs, hugs, hugs.....

Rain said...

Hi Toni :) Lol at your Ides of March! :) I know the feeling though...we get snow until May some years and it's difficult. We can't wait to leave this area, for many reasons, but one big one for me is the climate. We'll be moving a little more south to the east coast of Canada where the seasons are a little longer. I think the idea of the full-spectrum bulbs is a good one. I think they would work well for my plants too! Thanks you! I took a lot of time to work on the colours of the blog, I wanted that affect of serenity too! :)

Rain said...

Hi Martha :) The no greenery is bugging me a lot too. I'm dying to start some seedlings indoors but I know better, that has to wait until April, which seems too far away. But I will be planting some flowers during the week for Imbolc, to encourage the spring weather! I'm trying not to lose my marbles with the cabin fever too lol..I'm taking the opportunity to do some deep cleaning at home because that does NOT happen once I can be out on the porch in my pj's lol! :)

Rain said...

Hi Wisps of Words :) Yes! I have the pop up comments! :) I'm glad you liked the words I chose :)

baili said...

tough times come to glorify the definition of smooth beautiful times my precious friend Rain
each problem has it's solution alongwith it we just have to ponder and bring it out

i just want to say little words though could be silly to you but i have to as you are my friend

if you think that extreme winter shutdown your energy and is too painful to bear than please try to move somewhere

where the cold is not as long and hard and sun shine more this is what i would do if i will find this weather so tough as weather is very first thing which give shape to our moods

if you mind it please forgive me as you know i am not much smart like you

Pam Jackson said...

I went to comment on this post yesterday but my mind was wandering all over the place and I could not stay focused so I just did not comment.....here I am again, things in my head have settled down so maybe I can get a comment out! I think it just appears like rough times in colder weather. YOu are in more have more time to think and it seems like things are worse than they are. At least it seems that way to me. The cold weather brings more pain for me so I do a lot of "not doing much" in the winter so I have more time to think....Have a great day Rain.

Nicolas Hall said...

Rain, I found that, just speaking for myself here, I did so much better once I realized that I needed to establish year around routines and practices as well as the season-dependant ones I adore, like gardening, so I never felt out of sync in any one season. I think I mentioned before that it's summer where I get the symptoms of SADS. I adore winter, always have, but then I always loved any excuse to disconnect, stay in, hunker down and be selfish with my time etc. lol Snow days were, since childhood, something to celebrate! Hot and humid summer weather makes me feel pretty much the same way as winter does to many others. I felt that I couldn't go out, hated the anticipation of heat waves and felt my soul sink when the forecast was for 7 or 8 days of hot sunny weather without a break. etc.

Of course, I moved to a place where the hot days are few and far between but so are the very cold ones. Rainfall is the big hinderance and what affects most people here. Some move here and one winter later they are gone. Can't fathom the impact of 60 inches of rain a year and the constant dampness for 9 months of it.

I didn't fully realize it until recently but I have been very fortunate to have built an art practice and inner world that allows me to keep most of my routines all year around so that I don't feel I am stuck or hobbled by the seasons/weather. My days are the same whether it's 75 and perfectly sunny or 45 and torrential wind and rain. I miss things of course, like gardening from summer months or the stillness of winter (noticeable even more so living a tourist area that is so ridiculously noisy in the peak of summer) I find I am becoming more like my own grandparents who I grew up very close to. They cooked every meal, like I do now. They had their interests and routines within their home that they found to be very fulfilling year around. In a sense, as Pam mentioned above, they also created a life that did not allow for any certain season to give them "more time to think". My Grandmother had many ailments made worse by winter weather but she always seemed to put herself so fully into her crafts/knitting/crocheting/cooking/organ playing and rode them out as best she could. I believe that was very important, especially as they got older and became less mobile. :)

Rain said...

Hi Baili :) I welcome your suggestion with an open heart Baili!!! Don't even think I'd mind :) Because you are right! I really would love to move to a warmer climate. I just have some financial constraints and the warmest areas of Canada seem to be the most expensive too. I don't want to leave Canada either. But when Alex and I settle down, it'll be more towards the East Coast, the Maritimes, by the Atlantic ocean. There is still winter, but depending on where we move to, it'll be shorter and a little milder than here.

Rain said...

Hi Pam :) This is very true. Winter brings pain to me too so there are days when I'm exhausted from it and yes, the hamster wheel starts to turn a little too much! :)

Rain said...

Hi Nicolas :) I think that having a year-round routine is very important. I've been working at that for years now, but somehow there are times when the cabin fever hits me hard. I'm very much an outdoor person but the cold weather keeps me indoors too much. I have a hard time tolerating it like I did before. As Baili (above) suggested, I will be moving to a milder climate, but that's on hold for a few more years.

I remember reading that you have SAD during the summer. I don't mind the rain, but sun is important to me, and unlike you, I can sit outside in 40 degree humid weather and really enjoy myself! :) I have lots of hobbies that I'm trying to keep to, and the dogs definitely keep me busy! Those painful days are when I find it challenging to find the motivation to get out of bed though.

jack69 said...

Hey Lady, you wrap that up very well in that last short paragraph!

Definitely a problem for many folk in winter. It is not always possible to stay Positive, but definitely good to enjoy life and breath with a DREAM!

Rain said...

Thank you Jack :) Staying positive is always the best choice, but sometimes we just aren't up to it...we are human after all! But yes, having a dream is always a wonderful way to get through the rough times! :)

Tammie Lee said...

I think you have a very good point/advice:
Make the courageous decision not to allow any negative emotion to linger.

It can be easy to get lost in emotions and feelings. But more helpful to wake up inside of them.

Rain said...

Thank you Tammie Lee :) I spent too much time holding on to bad feelings, I regret it because I wasted too much of my life. I like what you said that it's more helpful to wake up inside the feelings. :)

Magic Love Crow said...

Very good advice my friend! Since I have been meditating, I have been finding out a lot about me! It's amazing how much we "keep" within our soul, in which we need to release! I have been doing so much releasing and it feels amazing!
(Thank you for the card! I have to write you a note!)
Big Hugs!

Rain said...

Thanks Magic Love Crow :)) It is AMAZING, the power of meditation. I don't feel right anymore if I don't spend a good 10 minutes or more meditating. I even asked Alex to build me a meditation bench! We do keep lots inside and sometimes the negative gets lost in there from too much shoving down and denying, and that's when we get in trouble. You're welcome for the card! :)

Fundy Blue said...

Hi, Rain! I don't mind winter at all when the sun is shining. It was a revelation to me when my family moved inland from James Bay in the dead of winter. There was brilliant sunshine ~ sunlight sparking on ice and snow, wide open blue skies and far horizons. It's the same way in Colorado. Winter had always been grey and damp. Later I realized that more was going one ~ my soul needs wide open space and very big sky. I hate feeling closed in. I handle challenges best when I'm rested and taking care of myself. All the best to you!

Rain said...

Hi Louise :) I'm with you on the sunshine. Winter is tolerable when it's sunny, that is for sure. When I lived on P.E.I., that winter was miserable for me because I counted...we went 27 days without sunshine at all one of those months. It was mild, but horrible!