Tuesday, January 16, 2018

The Number 16

January 16th...once upon a time when I was a kid, this would mean that spring weather was just 2 months away! That's when I lived in Montreal though. I actually remember Easter in the spring, wearing a spring outfit and of course, a nice hat for the Easter Parade...shoes, not boots!! Well, our climate has changed a little since then. Now that I'm a good 3 hours north, I'd say spring was just 4 months around the corner lol...

I don't know too much about numerology, but I'm dabbling! :) From what I've learned, the number 16 is a karmic number, and people under its influence need to keep on the high road. They must develop will power and take positive action to overcome obstacles. 

So my question today is, do you believe in Karma? Do you feel that your actions will define the quality of your own life? Do you believe in fate or destiny? Do you believe in the Eastern philosophy that the state of your own Karma also includes the behaviours from a past life? Or...do you believe in "an eye for an eye"?

I definitely believe in Karma in my own life. I believe in "what goes around, comes around". This is a belief that has empowered me my entire life...especially under circumstances where I had zero input, control or defense. I always figured "they" would get what's coming to them one way or the other - and it gave me peace of mind.

I had a friend way back when. She was a terrible pessimist. She was also a racist. The things that came out of that girl's mouth could turn your stomach. She was quite rude and nasty and eventually, even the most compassionate of her friends just left her behind - me included. I just remember her always saying things like "I don't understand why I have such back luck. I'm a good person." Well, the jury is still out on that one. She wasn't a good person - she could be, but most of the time she let her negativity and cruel opinions get the better of her.

I think that what we put out to the Universe is what we attract back. But of course, there are exceptions to everything. I don't believe in black and white. I don't believe that children rule their own Karma. Sometimes bad things happen to them and they act out - not out of choice, but out of lack of life experience. And sometimes people have fallen victim to tragedies or illness when they are very good people. I believe that Karma is an adult philosophy and truth when people make choices. If I choose to be a bigot and hurt people who are of a different race, religion, gender, age or sexual orientation...solely based on ignorance or anger...then I would assume Karma would definitely come back and give me the same treatment in some other area of my life.

I try to live with kindness. I don't like people in general, but I won't choose to be cruel or rude to them. I will just choose not to interact with them. I prefer to show my kindness to animals and to the Earth. Karma also applies to the self. If you don't show yourself kindness, you will likely not get it in return.

There was a time in my life where I was very negative. Doom and gloom, hatred, anger and sickness...that combination was my entire existence. Some things I couldn't control, like the illness, but my attitude was something I could have worked much harder on. Those were some dark days, such misery! I feel like I wasted so much of my life on that negativity. Negative energy is a powerful dynamic. I can feel people's negative energy as though it was my own, and very intensely. It really challenges me at times - so I guess that's the number one reason why I avoid being around people.

But positive energy is just as powerful! There was a game I played with my friends when I was younger. We'd all lie on the floor, each one resting our heads on the other person's stomach. The game was called "Ha Ha". One person would start laughing and before you knew it, we'd all be laughing our heads off from the bobbing of our heads on the stomachs of our friends who were laughing hysterically. Positivity and laughter is catchy. :)

I've met cynics throughout my life who "poo poo" the power of positivity as though it was some form of mind-control or something!!  When I am super positive and send out that energy, I really do feel it coming back to me. If negative energy can affect people so strongly, why is it so hard to believe that positive energy couldn't do the same?  Do you have the same experience with positive energy?


wisps of words said...

I don't believe in fate or destiny.

Karma... so many aspects to that. Not necessarily, that "bad people will get bad in return." But; can actions define the quality of one's own life? Yes, I'd say so. Because like you said.... No one wants to be around a constantly negative person. You naturally try to avoid them. So that person's actions, can bring consequences.

And trying to be positive, and to keep on an even 'keel'... Would do good things, for our selves.

I do believe in not letting doom and gloom "in," if possible. Because I believe that our mind/emotions effect our health. Don't want to court ill health, by negativity, which we can banish. Everyone has "bad days." But overall, I like to keep as "up" as possible. (The Ideal, of course.)

You sound like an empath, is it? Someone who understands or feels... The mood of other people. Which can bring you down, of course. I think all of us are that way, to some extent. Like... we avoid an always-down-person, because they bring us 'down.' But maybe you feel the emotions/attitude of others, even more than most people...? Which is hard to live with.

Lots here, to discuss! I probably didn't answer it all. :-) Thank you for thinking posts!!!!

Pam Jackson said...

I try very hard and I work at it daily to not be a negative person. Somedays.....somedays others make it hard but I do my very best.

Lisa said...

Very interesting! I attended a workshop this weekend on chakras and healing stones/crystals. I have always been attracted to the "tigers eye" and red jasper stones and have one of each for a bead/stone bracelet. I found that I would automatically want to wear them before going out in public or in stressful situations when I would potentially be around negative people. In looking up the properties of these two stones they show: Tigers Eye: Mind: Emotional healing; Decreasing anxiety; Happiness; Organization/Order; Courage; Focus; Objectivity and Red Jasper: Red Jasper almost seems to hug you with its comforting essence. Jasper's energy is the support you can learn on when stress is tearing you down. As a supreme nurturer, it soothes the mind of anxiety so that it can focus on other things. Red Jasper's encouragement helps you to take on new pursuits, deal with conflicts and approach problems with creative solutions. Lisa

Plowing Through Life (Martha) said...

Such a thought provoking post! I do believe that what we give is what is returned to us. Like attracts like. If you are a negative individual, you will invite that type of energy. If you go around each day with a frown on your face and the expectation that your day will be horrible, how can you possibly notice or appreciate or find any joy in anything or anyone?

I've always been someone who believes in karma (in many cases) and I think most people will eventually pay some debt. The universe balances things. And I also believe that life consists of both free will and fate, destiny. Perhaps our life's journey is predefined in some ways with the ability to also change direction or make different choices. I am open to ideas because life is very mysterious and we don't have all the answers. I've been a believer in reincarnation since my 30s and I still am. I love the concept of it.

I also pick up on other peoples' energy and quickly get a feel for someone when I first meet them. And the eyes, of course. When I look in someone's eyes, I learn a lot about them. Followed by body language, which is quite revealing. If you just watch quietly and listen carefully, you will get an idea of what someone is like.

Rain said...

Hi Wisps of Words :) It's very true...negativity and ill thoughts DO affect our mind and emotions...and also our physical bodies. When I was under tremendous stress, I also had a really negative mind frame. I think the two went hand in hand. Of course, my body rebelled. Too much Cortisol released does a lot of physical damage too.

Yes, I've been called an empath before and for a while I didn't really know what that was. But honestly, it is what I am. And sometimes it's very difficult to bear. I have a neighbour who is a little erratic. We were good neighbourly friends for a while. She asked me to drive her places, and I did with pleasure, she's in her 70's and doesn't have a car. But then the requests got too frequent and then they weren't requests, they were "I need you to drive me here at on this day." I started to feel very nervous, because really I don't like to drive. One day after I became really ill from driving her, I decided to be honest with her. I told her that driving anyone other than myself and my family caused me a lot of stress, and that it was becoming too frequent for my liking and that I was sorry. She said "I pay for the gas so what is the problem?". I asked her if she could try to understand that it wasn't personal. Well, since then, she stopped speaking to me and is really REALLY hostile. When I walk by her house, I feel her anger...and once in a while when I feel it strongly, I turn to see her glaring at me through her window! It's very unpleasant.

Rain said...

Hi Pam :) I know how you feel. I have people who make life a little hard for me, I just mentioned my neighbour in my reply to Wisps of Words. I have removed all toxic people from my life, but some of them are just there anyway. I'm sure your Fibro makes it difficult to stay positive on certain days too though. I have bad days when my body aches or when the anxiety just pops up without explanation. It's really difficult to stay positive when that happens.

Rain said...

Hi Lisa :) Oh how fun!! I've been working on my Chakras lately through some yoga and meditation! I've always been interested in stones and crystals too, I just haven't found the time to really look into it. Thank you for the information on the Tiger's Eye and the Red Jasper! Those would be very helpful to me. I love it! :)

Rain said...

Thanks Martha :) I agree that like attracts like and that the Universe does balance everything. It's very true that if you are in a negative mindset...and that includes anger, fear, sadness, guilt...you are not capable of seeing the silver lining. We all go through our bouts where we are stuck in negativity for various reasons and it's very important to work through the emotions and accept them, let ourselves feel them, have whatever pity party we want to have!! But letting them go and moving on is where I think a lot of people get stuck. That's the challenging part, to start to allow the positive back in.

I'm very much open to ideas because you're right, life is a mystery. No science or religion can exactly define what is going on here lol...that's okay by me though. I like to explore new ideas and options.

I'm like you. I definitely feel other's emotions. Eyes and body language are like confirmations for me that my instincts are right about that person.

jack69 said...

I am not sure about Karma (for me) But I do know positive and negative do work in one's life. I have always been a positive person. I never dreaded Mondays. It has worked in my life to assist my wife in making sure I am/was successful. LOL
Negative can kill some of the best intentions.
Great so see you back in the blog world..

Rain said...

Lol Jack :) So nice to see your comment :) I also believe negativity is a great power and we need to be very careful to choose positive over negative. Glad to know your positive choices have helped Sherry. ;)

MrsDuncanMahogany said...

I believe in Karma and I also believe in an eye for an eye. But if you think deeply enough on that, I think they can very well be one in the same.

I try to not be negative. I try to find the good and wonderful in things. If someone I know is negative, mean, difficult to be around I avoid them like the plague. I have had too much of that in my life. Not anymore!!!!

Rain said...

Hi Dianna :) That's a really interesting point about Karma vs an eye for an eye. I agree, I avoid negative people like the plague too, it's way too damaging emotionally for me.

Fundy Blue said...

Some deep questions posed in this post, Rain. I believe in a certain extent to karma. I think what you put out into the world can come back to you; but that said, good things happen to "bad" people and bad things happen to "good" people. I try to be a positive force and a kind person, but I'm not expecting the world to give that back to me. I believe in reincarnation more than anything else because, scientist though I am, I can't shake the feeling that I have lived before. I'm a high energy person, and this has been commented to me over and over throughout my life. My energy intimidates some people, especially if I'm stressed; so I'm trying very hard to project positive, calmer energy. My word for the year is "calm." It's part of my anti-anxiety program. Decades ago I visited the fish market in Seattle's Pike Place Market. The fishmongers were tossing fish around, and they made it a point to lift people's spirit with a "Make Their Day" philosophy. That profoundly affected me, and I make it a point of trying to make someone's day, particularly by smiling and acknowledging people as people. It's not easy, because I am shy; but you'd be amazed how much a simple big smile to acknowledge someone can lift that person's spirits, especially if they're elderly or disabled or invisible. Take care! Sending you a hug!

Rain said...

Hi Louise :) I LOVE that! "Make Their Day"...and yes, I do know the power of a smile! I do the same (when I'm actually out in society lol...which is rare lately!). When I go to the mailbox, I often see some of the other villagers out picking up their mail too. This is a retirement village and the elders here are so sweet. I don't know how they put up with the loud tourists...but they are definitely nice people. I always smile and say hello, and that positive energy is very present. It makes them feel good and it makes me feel good too! Calm is one of the words I'm definitely applying to my life, especially these days. I also am trying not to react to every negative energy I feel. I sometimes also feel I've been around a lot longer than my 49 years here...I am intrigued by past lives and reincarnation. I don't have all of the answers for myself with regards to the afterlife, but I'm very open to believing that our energies definitely live on.