Monday, April 16, 2018

Enjoyment

Thank you to all of my friends for your lovely comments the last few posts. I'm so sorry I haven't been able to respond personally and I feel bad about that. Life has been too complicated, dogs have been sick, friends have been irresponsible, life is nearly a shambles...we have been suffering stress that we don't need in our lives. I just want my life back...I am trying very hard to remember that this too shall pass!


I've been reading a book called The Language of Letting Go. It's a lovely book that has a daily message (she calls meditation) on self-healing. I love it. On my sidebar I have a contact form, if you want to "borrow" it, just email me, but you need an e-reader that opens "Epub" files to open it.

Here is a bit of April 13th's message, titled Enjoyment:

"One of the prohibitions many of us learned in childhood is the unspoken rule Don’t have fun and enjoy life. This rule creates martyrs—people who will not let themselves embrace the pleasures of day-to-day living.

We can go through the day making ourselves feel anxious, guilty, miserable, and deprived. Or we can allow ourselves to go through that same day feeling good.

There is much to be enjoyed each day, and it is okay to feel good. We can let ourselves enjoy our tasks. We can learn to relax without guilt. We can even learn to have fun."

We can ALLOW ourselves to go through the day feeling good. Yes...I do believe it's a choice. But you know what? Sometimes we need to feel bad to appreciate feeling good. Do you agree? I am such a sensitive soul...I feel as though I'm quite fragile most of the time. I have learned to deal with stress and create a life for myself that I can manage quite well. But throw a wrench in there and boy do I have a pickle of a time figuring things out!

I've been under a bit of a dark cloud lately. But...I see bright days ahead. Now if only Mother Nature would cooperate! It's been a LONG winter and I know that's not helping my mood!!! :)

Thanks to Pam for your encouragement you sweet lady. :)

17 comments:

Linda said...

I'm so glad you found the book! My sisters and I read this every day and so does my daughter, Summer. I have been reading it over and over for years and years now. Maybe 15 years. I first heard the words co-dependent and bounderies back in 1998 and I slowly began my journey towards recovery. While I do not need this book as much as I once did - it's still a good reminder from day to day in staying healthy emotionally and mentally.
God bless you, Rain, in your present difficulties and as you come out on the other side of them. Remember the scripture - 'and it came to pass.....'
It doesn't come to stay! Praise God!

Pam Jackson said...

Oh wow, not expecting that, but you are really welcome. I was glad to see your post today but on the flip side of that, I understand life and the ups and downs it throws at us. If you are vacant from the blog I know you are chilling and dealing, but I just want to let you know that you are on our mind. I, not working, have learned to let go. Even though we have had the wedding with good stress in getting it done, there has been a lot of legal child things going on with my grandbabes at the same time. Its been a rough time but I learned, as much as I love the people in my life, I have to back away some. I can be concerned but I try to not WORRY so much. Not sure how I learned to do that but I do. I let things go or either I will drive myself nuts. Thanks for the shout out and know I understand what life is like.

Tammie Lee said...

Yes, it can be hard to move out of challenging feelings.
I think feelings of sadness, frustration, fear, anger etc. are good to feel but not to get lost in. It would be helpful to use them as inspiration to find change.

I wish you clarity and inner peace so that you can be with the things that are (me too ;-)).

wisps of words said...

"Don’t have fun and enjoy life." So awful... To put our own well being and good, first.... Is not *allowed.* How weird. Yes, it does make grrrrrrrreat martyrs! All those "good" people, who view our life on earth as supposed to be a veil of tears. All they want, is to live their martyr life, and be eligible for a golden crown, in heaven.

-sigh-

Not me!

Glad you found that book!

wisps of words said...

I wrote more... But then deleted it....

Not my business to advise. Or to ask questions. -sigh-

Just hope you really put yourselves first, from now on. and do not allow so-called-friends, to keep taking advantage of you.

Jono said...

The sun is coming out and the days are getting warmer. It will all get better.

Martha said...

Hi Rain, I'm sorry to hear that you've had some rough times. This weather is certainly not helping. Spring is supposed to be about awakenings and colour and warm weather and spending lots of time outdoors. So far it has sucked the big one! LOL I'm an email away if you need a shoulder to gnaw on...ooops sorry, cry on :) It's me that's in a gnawing mood because I'm losing my mind with this weather. Hang in there! Spring will eventually arrive.

We're very similar in our way of thinking. I sometimes have trouble if my world becomes unbalanced or something is out of order. George says I end up spinning around in circles as I try to navigate my way out of there. I do figure things out but because I like peace in my life, these instances really upset me.

I think many of us were raised to believe that you were doing right if you were focused on working hard and handling responsibilities. I think you should take care of business but always make room for fun! Otherwise, what's the point of it all?

Magic Love Crow said...

We all go through things. I feel when we feel dark, there is a healing process going on, where we have to send that darkness to the light, allowing things to pass or letting go! Hang in there! Big Hugs!

Rain said...

Hi Linda :) Yes! I found the book and I love it :) Thanks for the suggestion! It really is grounding, helps me think and sort things out. :) Your daughter's name is wonderful by the way :) I'm confident that these tough times will soon pass...I'm trying my best to keep things together in the mean time :)

Rain said...

Hi Pam :) Well, your comment had me thinking that I need to be doing things that bring me pleasure because I think that in tough times, we tend to forget the good things, so for that I thank you. :) xx I wish I knew how not to worry! LOL...I guess it takes practice. I'm trying though! :)

Rain said...

Hi Tammie Lee :) Thank you for the well wishes. The whole situation is dog-related...that friend who dumped Stella and Pavlov...all the stress and money woes...I'm trying not to wallow in it...but I'm still having trouble finding a way out of it. Time will help though. :)

Rain said...

Hi Wisps of Words :) I know what you were going to write, and I got that from your comment on my other blog, so THANK YOU...you don't have to censor yourself on my blog ever! :) We will find out on Sunday about all of this mess. If it unravels, we will have to step up and take control once and for all and the hell with that guy. :)

Rain said...

Hi Jono :) Thanks for visiting :) Yes...the days are getting warmer REALLY SLOWLY lol...but the sunshine is helping so much lately! :)

Rain said...

Hi Martha :) I'm sure you know the gist of my hard times lately...it's just all happening at the same time...and it's a strain on me and Alex too, we're not coping the best. I know it'll all come to a head really soon, but waiting is out is so hard. I'll gnaw on your shoulder for sure lol ;)

It's just so odd...little things I can handle...but when my world becomes unbalanced, it's always so many things all together and I find myself spinning too. Not quite out of control, but lately it's felt like that. I hope things settle down soon. Hope hope hope!! :)

Rain said...

Hi Magic Love Crow :) Thank you. Actually I was thinking of you the other day and I did some reading on Soul Work and facing your dark side. I am learning about it, and I agree with you that when we feel dark, healing is starting. You can't rush stuff like that, but it's very comforting to know there will be an end to it! :)

Fundy Blue said...

I hope that your dark cloud is lifting, Rain! I'm usually pretty happy, unless I fall into a depression. One thing I am not good at is relaxing. I usually feel the weight of too much to do and feel guilty if I do nothing. My goal this week is to relax and enjoy myself more. All the best to you!

Rain said...

Hi Louise :) Thanks!!! The dark cloud is almost gone...once the two dogs leave on Monday, we'll be able to really relax again and enjoy your cozy little routined lives lol...I hope you are able to relax and enjoy yourself WITHOUT the guilt!!! :)