Thursday, November 1, 2018

Achieving Your Goal


Hello my friends :)

Do you set goals? Are you the type who dreams big or are you a baby step type of person? :)

I used to dream big, but was never able to achieve the goals I set because I never took the proper baby steps to get there. I just wanted things NOW NOW NOW..and when I didn't get them I'd simply give up and pout about how unfair life was. Not quite a recipe for success is it? :) 

Now I do things a lot differently. I'm no longer about the destination, I'm all about the journey.

My biggest goal for the next year is home ownership. Well, let's just say "home ownership" when we all know it'll be me and the bank owning the home until it's paid off lol!!

I have had that goal for so many years. I achieved it back in 2001, but burnout put an end to that when my condo in the mountains was foreclosed. I was too proud to accept unemployment insurance, always doubting the doctors' diagnoses and assuming I wasn't as sick as I really was...I blew through my savings in less than six months. When I finally was accepted for disability income, it was too late. I'd missed several mortgage payments and as we know, banks don't have empathy! I learned a lot from that experience. It was very tough to lose my home, have to move back to a crappy apartment in the city and deal with burnout at the same time.


But I made it through the most difficult time of my life. I survived. I feel like I'm still rebuilding my life. But you know, if all that didn't happen, I wouldn't have met Alex and have the life I have now would I? There is always some kind of silver lining!

I read Tarot cards pretty much every morning. The cards always have a lesson. I call them "poor man's therapy"! My favourite deck is a Fairy Tale Tarot Deck. I wrote the Tarot spread above and I did the reading for myself this morning.


My first card was Goldilocks and the Three Bears. That little girl does NOT belong in the house of the bears! She is basically meeting her immediate needs without considering the potential consequences of her actions. I'd like to think that the cards are telling me I don't belong in THIS cottage lol...that I belong in my own cottage in the woods!!! But more realistically if I look at the fairy tale and the message it sends out, I think it's mostly about considering consequences. Every decision that I make for the next six months will beg the question...does this bring me closer to buying a home? If not...scrap it! :)


How will I achieve this goal? My card was The Elves and the Shoemaker. Hard work will pay off! :)


The third card, what hinders me from achieving my goal...was The Princess and the Pea. The poor girl needs to prove that she is indeed a Princess. This card symbolizes our genuine nature.  I think that the pressure to perform can get to me. This stems from always feeling I need to do something for someone to receive their love and appreciation, I never felt I could just be me. I am trying very hard to shake off the chains of my people pleasing nature and focus on me and my family. I need to stop fearing being that person! I remember during the summer, having a hard time because I'd basically stopped planning and making nice delicious dinners. Alex told me even if I never cooked again, he'd still love me. :)  But my whole life I felt pressure to please people...I do know this stems from childhood, but it's so natural to me now that it needs a lot of work to undo. I don't need to be Martha Stewart for anyone to love me! I just need to be me! It takes a lot of work to re-program what was drilled into us for so many years! :)


The last card asks what I need to let go of to achieve my goal. I drew Beauty and the Beast. The ultimate "transformation" message! I used to self-impose so many restrictions on myself, I was very hard on myself and I was plagued with guilt and anxiety. I have to embrace this transformation of self that I'm going through right now instead of fearing it and resisting it. It's a good change so why fight it? Because that's how I've been all my life? That's no reason not to change!!! :)

See what I mean about the cards?? :) A lot of people think that Tarot readings are all about premonitions and reading the future. I see them mainly as thought provokers and self-improvement!

The next six months are going to be good ones. I'm going to use this winter to make meaningful changes to my own life, habits and attitudes in order to stay on track with the biggest goal I've ever set for myself. What about you?

18 comments:

Mama Pea said...

Here I go again. I learn SO much from your writing! A great deal of what you said in this post applies directly to me at the present. We may be on a different track (picture a train track moving along!) but our goals are much the same. I just don't have the ability to express them in the same eloquent way you do. Huh. Maybe that's something I need to do. Find a succinct way of stating (putting down in writing?) those goals floating around in my head. Thank you for this post, my friend. Hugs.

wisps of words said...

I like your interpretation of Tarot!!!!! Since we all can use prompts.

I guess our dreams are trying to give them to us, but it's really hard to get any interpretation, out of dreams. They come, from so, very, deep in our subconscious. We don't live *there.* We live in the conscious world.

Perhaps any card drawn, on any day, could prompt us to a wise pondering, on any day? Or maybe not, I'm not familiar with Tarot.

One thing is certain... Human nature wants to procrastinate. So any/all things, which prompt us to work on our issues, is good.

We know when we are progressing. As we *finally* know, when we are regressing. :-( So keep progressing!

Hugs...

Pam Jackson said...

Things do happen for reasons, I used to not fall into that thought but as I have aged, I think they do. We might not understand the reason for them happening but if we look hard enough we find it. Cards, I am just recently getting into stuff like this and I need to purchase some cards or ruins. Fall is still upon us here, but I feel winter knocking at the door.....not the biggest fan of winter but then not so big on summer either. We have had some great color but wind and rain of cold fronts are knocking the leaves to the ground faster then I want. Having fall for a hot min is not the kind of fall I love.

Rain said...

Hi Mama Pea :)) Thank you and you're welcome!! :) Interesting how we're on different tracks but the goals are the same! :) We all have to find our own way of getting there. I think that the biggest thing that has helped me through all of this is journaling. I used to just write and write and write. It always helped me sort things out. Now I write on this blog and the feedback I get helps me a lot too. Hugs!!

Rain said...

Hi Wisps of Words :)) I don't always follow the book-definition of the Tarot cards. I draw a card each morning as I get up. I have a lot of decks and I always appreciate the message I get. It's always helpful! I even have an "app" on my phone for lazy days, I can draw a card on the phone if I want, though I really hate getting THAT lazy lol...I so agree about progressing and regressing!!! :)

Rain said...

Hi Pam :)) I think introspection is very important. I'm the type of person who needs to take responsibility for everything that happens to me. It's true that a lot is out of my control, but if I look deep enough, at least I find understanding and acceptance. I like that you're getting into these things Pam. I think getting an Oracle deck might be a good start. They are a little different from Tarot cards. They have clear messages and advice. And look for a deck that calls out to you! I started with the tradition Tarot deck (called the Rider-Waite deck) and I found it a little too sterile for a beginner. When I found my Fairy Tale deck, I really enjoyed every moment of card reading! We had fall for a hot minute too, the snow decided to stick around and it's snowing a little each day lately. Boo!

Lon Anderson said...

I've found it of great importance to be myself without trying to live my life like others think I should.

Rain said...

Hi Lon :) That's a very good attitude, one I'm trying very hard to stick to.

Magic Love Crow said...

You are on the right path Rain! Just remember, put your hand on your heart and say to yourself everyday, I love you!! You are important!!! Serve you!!! Big Hugs!

Gwen Buchanan said...

Achieving life long desires requires had work, sacrifice, determination, tons of energy and saving every penny you can. it is not an easy road... but from reading you posts, you certainly have all these things and such a strong desire to reach your goal.
Have you thought about finding land and building your own place little by little, just as money becomes available so as to not have any debt. that is the only way we could have done it.. slow but sure it came to be. and along with it much freedom and happiness. xo

Martha said...

You're on a wonderful journey and a solid road! Can't wait to hear all about your upcoming plans as they begin to unfold :)

Rain said...

Thanks Stacy, that's very good advice! :) Hugs :)

Rain said...

Thanks Gwen :) We thought about buying some land, but building on it wouldn't fit our budget. Though we are definitely looking for a fixer upper and adding on as we go. There is so much in the Maritimes, so many possibilities, it's very exciting! We plan on taking 10 years to pay off our mortgage and no more than that, maybe less than that. We definitely want to be debt-free as soon as possible. :)

Rain said...

Thanks Martha :) I'm super excited about this. Even though at this very moment I can't see it happening, I have faith that it'll all work out!! :)

Pam Jackson said...

Rain, thanks for the advice on cards. I had planned on doing a lot of reading on this stuff but with my fibro came the issue of not being able to retain a lot of what I read these days. It’s just another issue I deal with. Can concentrate like I used to. I wanted to study up on my herbs, cards and witchcraft.....I have always had that pull but never worked on doing anything about it with working and raising kids...now I have the time but don’t have the concentration.

Nicole Thomas said...

Love the reading ❤ the condo was nice ... the journey rough sometines ... your home will be phenomenal !!!

Rain said...

Hi Pam :) I kind of can relate to the concentration issue. After I burned out, I lost a lot of cognitive skills. Over the years it's gotten better, but sometimes I find myself opening a book, only to have to read the first page 10 times to remember what I just read. It's very frustrating!

Rain said...

Thanks Sis :) Oh I can't wait for my FOREVER home...