Thursday, August 23, 2018

Blog Comments

THIS IS A POST I DID ON MY MAIN BLOG: Rain's Garden with regards to a new policy on Blog Comments!

Here are a few of the 66 tomatoes that are finally turning red! :) I see salsa in my future... ;)

And my very first sugar you think it'll have enough time to ripen?

Blog Comments:  My friends, I'm sorry to say this, but I have to turn off the "anonymous" comment feature for my blog. I don't know what the heck happened, but I woke up the other morning to over 800 comments (no joke!!!) from "Anonymous"...everything from graphically violent attacks, to bigotry to the likes of the Nigerian Prince scam of the 1990's. I even got comments saying that the Federal Government is suing me for tax evasion lol...

And all throughout the last few days I keep getting hundreds more on various posts on my blogs.

This doesn't worry me at all, I know they are just randomly generated, but it's just annoying, so I'm going back to only allowing comments from people with Google accounts. I know that some of my followers don't have accounts with Google, but I hope you understand. I just don't have the time to moderate comments when I'm getting so many spam ones.

This also applies to my other two blogs: Rain's Thoughts and Rainy Day Cheese Making...both of which I intend to resume after Labour Day as well! :)

If you don't want to open a Gmail account, I totally get that, but if you want to contact me, you can always use the Contact Form on my sidebar! I'm also on Instagram.

Thanks for understanding! :)

Tuesday, June 19, 2018


Every morning I draw a card from one of my many Tarot or Oracle decks. I take the message seriously and think about it and try to see how it'll fit into my day; how I'll learn from it; and what I need to change if anything to improve my life and my health. This is a part of my daily "maintenance" and self-therapy that has become a very pleasant habit!

This morning I drew the Spider from my Animal Oracle deck. Lately, besides enjoying the short summer season here in the mountains, I've been ensconced in writing. I started a little crime drama type of novel back in 2006 and got about twenty-three thousand words written...but then my mental health took a dive and I lost all of my creativity. I set that novel aside and never looked at it until last week.

I re-read my book and decided I wanted to try to write again. I finished reading it last Friday and then got a little writer's block. I started to write poems instead and they came to me easily, but after a few days, those ideas dried up a little. Then this morning, a new idea came to me. I thought maybe the Oracle card was telling me to go for it!

Another wonderful habit I've taken up again is walking the dogs in the woods and up the mountain each morning. I love it! I've started a little morning ritual as I walk. I spend some time thinking about what I'm grateful for, then I spend some time praying for my loved ones and my friends, then I think about three things I want to accomplish that day. I got this idea from watching inspirational videos with Tony Robbins. Love that man! So in doing my morning ritual, sometimes I think about it, and sometimes I actually say it out loud to further project that intention out to the Universe. I love my morning walking meditations! They start my day off on a positive note every time. :)

So as I was praying this morning for a person I care about a lot, I was just thanking the Universe for letting that person see that they can come to me, that I'm an open and caring and safe spot they can rest their head on. This person is going through a very difficult time and had a tendency to keep everything locked away, but yesterday she reached out to me and I felt like I really could offer her some comfort. I had asked the Universe for days in a row to show her that she could open up and she did. 

Anyway, I was just thanking the Universe for allowing her to see that I could comfort her when I walked right through a HUGE spider web with a spider on it that crawled down my arm. I JUMPED lol...I think I yelled too. I'm not an insect fan! 

But instead of freaking out, I thought wait...I pulled the Spider card this morning. Then another thought came to my head, the Spider Totem's message is this:

"What you have carefully woven lately is now bearing fruit".

JUST as I was thanking the Universe for allowing my friend to open up to me, the Spider was appearing to me to tell me that my efforts were successful. Isn't that cool?

I don't believe too much in coincidences, to me this was synchronicity, which (generally speaking) means simultaneous events that occur in your life that are somehow related in a meaningful way.

Do you believe in synchronicity? Has this ever happened to you? I consider this a wonderful blessing and an opportunity to strengthen my beliefs. :)

Wednesday, June 13, 2018

Dark Of The Moon

Dark Moon or New Moon? I guess depending on what your beliefs are, you may see tomorrow as the New Moon rising. I personally see the next few days as the Dark Moon phase, sometimes called the Dead Moon phase (to signify the end of the cycle and the preparation for a rebirth of the Moon cycle); I've also heard it referred to as the Balsamic Moon phase (anyone know why it's called the Balsamic Moon?).

I took these photos of the Moon on September 27th, 2015 during a Lunar Eclipse. It was wonderful!

When the Moon is completely invisible, that is the Dark Moon phase and it usually lasts from 2-3 days. I see the New Moon phase as the time when the moon shows a visible crescent. I live by the cycles of the Earth and the Universe so for me there is a big difference.

During the Dark Moon phase, I do a lot of soul searching. I look inward and reflect on the last Moon cycle and what I've learned about myself. 

I also make sure to take things very easy because I tend to get carried away at times and overdo it. These few days of the Dark Moon remind me to relax and enjoy some solitude and quiet moments, away from society and life.

The phases of the Moon really influence my day to day life.

The New Moon teaches you to start new projects and get excited about new opportunities. 

The Waxing Moon is a time for growth and following through on your plans.

The Full Moon is a great time for nurturing and taking care of your home, family and self. This is a time for women to celebrate their femininity.

The Waning ​Moon is a time of letting go of negativity and banishing toxicity from your life.

Then comes the Dark Moon where you need to just relax and reflect and get ready for the motivating power of the New Moon phase. As you look inward, it's a good time to set intentions for the coming month.

Here are some questions to ask yourself during the next few days:

1. What stands out most for you during the last month?

2. What were some of your greatest accomplishments in the last month? 

3. What were some of your greatest challenges? What can you learn from them and how can you grow from them?

4. What did you struggle with in the last month? Take a hard look and set an intention to change what isn't working for you.

5. What loose ends need to be tied up?

6. A big question I ask myself each Dark Moon phase is what have I realized? I can share this with you. I've realized I have a 50-year old body mind still thinks I'm in my early 20's! Thirty years ago I was a body builder and quite obsessed by it. Well I had the bright idea last month that I could get back into weight training, slowly mind you, but surely. My body told me differently and I had so many ouches and owies and a few kind of bad injuries that I had to deal with the last few weeks. Arnold Schwarzenegger I am NOT. I had to finally accept that my body needs a gentler approach to physical fitness and I'm working on that now!  :)

For the next few days, it's going to be raining so this is the perfect time for me to do some self-therapy and self-improvement. I have a few intentions I'm setting for the next month and a few goals as well. But mostly I'm going to spend some quiet time on the porch journaling and appreciating the quiet of the mountains before the tourist season officially begins in a week's time! And of course, with relaxation comes good food to share with Alex, tomorrow is fondue night and that's a great way to enjoy a quiet Dark Moon night! :)

Monday, June 4, 2018

Focusing On Your Senses

Springtime Rain in the Woods

Hi Everyone :) would seem I haven't had one little ol' thought in my head since May 1st lol! Oh you know how it is when gardening season starts, right? Everything in life is focused on the weather, being outdoors and then collapsing in bed with a glass of wine. :)

With all of the sunny weather lately, I haven't been near the computer much. But the last few days of rain have afforded me time to lounge about (and avoid cleaning the house)!! These three photos are ones I took with my Canon camera. I tried to keep it out of focus to catch the falling rain. :)

I decided that I'm going to do a bit of an exercise to become more in the present, and be more mindful. Every weekday I'm going to focus on one of my senses:

Monday: sound
Tuesday: sight
Wednesday: touch
Thursday: smell
Friday: taste

I'm doing this mostly on my morning walk with the dogs on the mountain. This morning is was POURING rain...and I mean dog-soaking to the skin pouring rain. But at some point, I said to the dogs "everybody stop, everybody sit." They are so well-behaved, even in the rain they follow commands! I love them! :) Then I said "what do you hear?". We often say this to the dogs and their ears perk up, trying to hear something. I took the time to close my eyes and focus on the falling rain and on how different it sounded when it hit the rocks, the leaves, my hat and the ground. It was wonderful! I love this exercise! :)

What do you do to practice mindfulness and live in the present moment?

As many of you know, Alex and I are in FRUGAL mode for the next year in an attempt to buy our first home two provinces over. :) I've crunched the numbers and it's going to be a challenge but we are both up for it! Are you in a financially challenging situation? Maybe ask yourself some hard questions. I avoided looking at the big picture for too long for fear of disappointment, but sometimes you just have to face your debt and spending habits don't you? It's part of life and when you face what makes you afraid, it empowers you to make a change and this in turn motivates you to succeed. :) At least this is how it works for me! :)

Tuesday, May 1, 2018

May Day

A Blessed Beltane to those who celebrate! :) Today is Beltane, which I refer to as May Day. It's a day to celebrate the fertility of the Earth and the upcoming summer season. It's also a day to honour the garden fairies as they awaken from their long winter's sleep. These little creatures take care of the garden all summer long so it's a nice idea to leave a little plot of your garden wild so that they can mingle in safety. :)

A little fairy lore: If you drink water from a well after sunset on May Day, you will likely be kidnapped by the fae and taken to their realm where you will be imprisoned for a year and a day. Best stick to wine after sunset today! ;)

Alex and I went for a walk last night at sundown and caught this beautiful sky. Usually a bright colourful sky at sundown indicates hot weather the next day and the sky did tell the story! 

Charlie and Marlene

It's sunny and 20C today and I'm loving it. So are the dogs! Funny how it's so warm yet we have so much snow still! The girls are keeping cool on the snow in this balmy weather. :) The snow is littered with leaves and branches from the wind we've had the last few days. I spent the morning setting up my porch...aaah, the porch life returns! :)

I do a Tarot and/or Oracle reading nearly every day. I wanted to show you this card from my Celtic Tree Oracle...Isn't it beautiful? What do you think of when you look at this card? The first thing that came to mind for me was femininity. After reading about this card more, I wanted to share these very important messages that I got from it.

1. Cultivate an atmosphere of nurturing, compassion, safety and love.

2. Be the kind of person that you would like to have in your life.

3. Earth is a paradise, treat her kindly and carefully, she gives and we need to appreciate her bounty.

4. Accept the cycles of the Earth, but also the cycles of your life. Accept and appreciate where you are right now in your life cycle.

All of these suggestions are wonderful ones, good reminders too. Be generous and sweet! Enjoy your May Day! I hope this is the beginning of a warm and fruitful summer! :)

Friday, April 20, 2018

Feeling Trapped?


Poor Jack...his "imprisonment" of cage-life will be over in a week, then he has his sweet freedom. :)

Interesting comparison, but sometimes I feel like I have lost my freedom lately.

I am someone who is constantly in the process of self-improvement, self-therapy and healing. Way back when, I used to deny everything and brush it under the rug...filling the void with shopping, alcohol and eating. I was bitter, unhealthy, obese and broke. I hated my life but didn't know how to change it...or maybe I was just in a comfortable rut and didn't have the strength to try? I don't know...Dr. Phil had a very straightforward way of putting it..."How's that workin' for ya?" my years of depression recovery, I watched a LOT of Oprah and Dr. Phil! :)

But it's so IS that workin' for ya? If something isn't working, why not change it? Of course, some things aren't easily changed due to emotional attachment, financial responsibilities, health challenges and so on...but nobody is really trapped are they? Nobody can control our thoughts and emotions as long as we don't let them.

We've become a society of complacency. Whatever the status quo dictates, a lot of people feel that's the way it should be. It ISN'T how it should be. Our lives should be led the way we want to lead them, end of story.

Most of my friends know our dog situation. As we get closer to the imposed deadline we gave to Stella and Pavlov's owner (Sunday the 22nd), I've been getting antsy, resentful, distrustful and very cautious. The last seven months of taking care of his dogs, his lies, his stalling, the stress it's caused, my routines and habits's gotten to me. Not only to I feel great sympathy and compassion for those two dogs whose lives have been so up and down the last four years...I feel betrayed. I really feel betrayed and I'm angry about it.

I've been reading so many articles lately on how to overcome feeling trapped. I've really been working on myself this week and have come up with these 7 ways to help you "un-trap" yourself and live a more joyful life:

1. Take responsibility: Are you feeling like a victim? Is someone or some memory of the past ruling your life and choices? What is stopping you from creating change? Happiness only comes when you step up and own your life. When you realize that (as an adult) your life is all about your own really become empowered...or overwhelmed...but it really is about choice.

2. Baby steps: What do you need to change? What little changes can you make each day to regain your confidence and make this change? Some things can't be changed all at once! Some things need gradual changes with small steps ahead, sometimes a few back too. If we rush into change like a bull in a china shop, we risk failing and giving up.

3. Crap I don't need: Make a list of everything in your life that you are doing out of obligation or that you really don't want to do. Why are you doing this? Time to escape the crap...write down what you need to do to remove this from your life. I have a "crap"'s so much smaller than it used to be thankfully!

4. The heck with others: Do you care too much about your image? About what others think of you? Do you put other people's emotions before your own emotions? Do you go along with what others want and neglect yourself, your relationship or your family? Be courageous...put your feelings first. Are you trying to impress people at the expense of your own happiness? Time to stop that and figure out why you need approval from others; the only person you need to impress is yourself.

5. Stop being a hero: Are you a people pleaser? Do you feel like you must always say YES!? Create and enforce boundaries to make your own life less stressful. Boundaries is such a buzz word, but honestly it's sound advice. Decide what you will and will not put up with and stick to your decision. I have been bad with boundaries in the past, and it takes a lot of courage and confidence to enforce them, but once you do, your life really does improve. I had iffy boundaries with family members who were abusive...I let them get away with too much and I was miserable. I finally enforced my boundaries, though it was tough...I am a much better person for it.

6. What if?: Do you suffer this syndrome? Ask yourself, what if the worst thing happens? What can I do about it? Usually the answer is "nothing" so stop with the what ifs! All it does is cause self-doubt and worry. We don't need that!

7. Feed your spirit: Most people link spirituality with organized religion. If organized religion is what keeps your faith strong, I respect you for it even if I don't share your belief because faith, no matter what form it takes, is a wonderful thing! :) But if you don't have a religion, it's still important to feed your spirit, your life what makes your entire being feel blessed, happy and grateful. Do this daily. When your spirit soars, you can't possibly feel trapped.

I'm journaling like a mad woman these days but it's really helping me see perspective and not let all the turmoil be the center of my thoughts and emotions. I hope this post was helpful. :)

Monday, April 16, 2018


Thank you to all of my friends for your lovely comments the last few posts. I'm so sorry I haven't been able to respond personally and I feel bad about that. Life has been too complicated, dogs have been sick, friends have been irresponsible, life is nearly a shambles...we have been suffering stress that we don't need in our lives. I just want my life back...I am trying very hard to remember that this too shall pass!

I've been reading a book called The Language of Letting Go. It's a lovely book that has a daily message (she calls meditation) on self-healing. I love it. On my sidebar I have a contact form, if you want to "borrow" it, just email me, but you need an e-reader that opens "Epub" files to open it.

Here is a bit of April 13th's message, titled Enjoyment:

"One of the prohibitions many of us learned in childhood is the unspoken rule Don’t have fun and enjoy life. This rule creates martyrs—people who will not let themselves embrace the pleasures of day-to-day living.

We can go through the day making ourselves feel anxious, guilty, miserable, and deprived. Or we can allow ourselves to go through that same day feeling good.

There is much to be enjoyed each day, and it is okay to feel good. We can let ourselves enjoy our tasks. We can learn to relax without guilt. We can even learn to have fun."

We can ALLOW ourselves to go through the day feeling good. Yes...I do believe it's a choice. But you know what? Sometimes we need to feel bad to appreciate feeling good. Do you agree? I am such a sensitive soul...I feel as though I'm quite fragile most of the time. I have learned to deal with stress and create a life for myself that I can manage quite well. But throw a wrench in there and boy do I have a pickle of a time figuring things out!

I've been under a bit of a dark cloud lately. But...I see bright days ahead. Now if only Mother Nature would cooperate! It's been a LONG winter and I know that's not helping my mood!!! :)

Thanks to Pam for your encouragement you sweet lady. :)