Sunday, March 24, 2019

Day 22 of 30 Days of Self Love: Listen To Your Intuition

When I climbed Mount Orford for the first time in 2007, I felt awe..I knew I wanted to climb more, be more active and spend my life surrounded by Nature. This is when I started to feel more spiritual, more in tune with Nature.

Hi Friends :)

Happy Sunday! I finished my painting yesterday and I posted "Painting and Pooches" on my main blog Rain's Garden, if you want to take a peak! I hope you all got crafty and creative yesterday!

I want you to stop right now, close your eyes and take inventory of your emotions and how your body is feeling. Do you have a funny feeling in the pit of your stomach? Are you feeling joyful, at peace and happy? Are your eyebrows furrowed? Are your shoulders up to your ears?

Your emotions and your body are always trying to tell you something, as Mama Pea put it...they are SO connected.

This is your intuition, your gut feeling.

Today's Self Love Challenge is to feel your intuition; and if you've lost it a little, take action to restore it. It's your best friend!

Usually when we are very well balanced, feeling joy, gratitude and harmony...we don't really think about listening to our intuition because we are just feeling so good!

But suppose you are between a rock and a hard place. You need to make a very big decision about something and you are just stuck. You've talked it out, you've made a pro's and con's list, you've imagined are still stuck. Intuition will guide you. When you think of decision "A", what is your body telling you, what feelings are you experiencing? Do the same for decision "B" and monitor the sensations you're feeling. Most times we already know what the right decision is, yet we somehow resist making it!

This little fella surprised me one autumn morning...yeah, I felt that anxiety and quickly ran away! I'm sure his intent wasn't to poke me, but I didn't want to take that chance!!

When I feel anxiety, then something's off. I can feel a person's negative mood when they enter my personal space. A great example is when I'm at the grocery store. I don't even have to look behind me to know that the person behind me is irritatingly impatient because I'm apparently taking too long to empty my grocery cart. I have to remind myself that I have done nothing wrong, that my intuition is telling me that I need to protect myself from that toxicity.

When I feel empty or sad, then I know there is some kind of disharmony in my life. Of course, I get sad from memories too, but if I just suddenly have this feeling, then I know I'm not living my life the way I should be living it to make me happy. Something is missing and I need to find out what that is. I often feel depression, but sometimes I feel a difference between depression and sadness/emptiness. The last time I felt this way was last fall and that's when Alex and I decided we are, without a doubt, buying our home this year!

When most people feel fear, they are likely in danger in some form or another. It may not be physical danger, but there is something threatening their well-being. You know the feeling when the dumb-dumb in the car behind you is tail-gating you. Not only do you feel his/her negativity, but there is a threat to your life with them driving so aggressively.

In my case, one of the insane effects of burnout was that I have a very wonky "fight or flight" reaction. If I get into a disagreement with someone, I feel intense fear. This is overkill, but it happens. I actually do feel that my life is being threatened and it's very challenging to overcome this. But usually the fight or flight reaction kicks in when you are in real danger.

The "dreaded" ski lift ride!

One thing I've noticed is that when I feel fear, it's because there is something I want so badly, but haven't made any effort to attain or achieve it. First I feel guilt, but then I feel fear that if I go ahead and try, I will fail. Interesting huh? It took me a long time to recognize this, so now I just move ahead no matter how terrified I am! A good example is that I really wanted to conquer my fear of heights..but it was a weird fear of heights. I'm comfortable in tall buildings, on a mountain top, but the idea of riding the ski lift DOWN the mountain terrified me. So the fear I was feeling was a wonderful combination of fear of heights, fear of falling and fear of failure in the form of an utterly spectacular meltdown (thanks Louise for that phrase!!!)  :) But one day in 2007, I just got on...and yes, I cried, I had my eyes closed, I felt intense fear...then I saw the bottom of the mountain. I felt relief, and PRIDE! I did it again the next day...over and over until I felt no fear at all.

When I'm walking in the woods, I feel at peace, relaxed...I am content and happy and I know I'm on the right path in life!

When I'm excited about something, when I have butterflies (not anxious ones!) in my stomach, I know I'm doing something very thrilling and fun! I get this feeling when I'm painting, cooking and creating.

When I feel awe, when I'm feeling very impressed by someone or something, that's a sign to me that I really want to do something new. As I mentioned under the first photo, climbing a mountain for the first time left me with a feeling of awe...and Nature became my way of life!

If I feel pain in my shoulders and neck, I know that I have too much stress. Same thing if I'm clenching my jaw. Alex has also noticed that when we watch suspenseful movies, I squeeze his hand without really being aware of it!

Learn to listen to your intuition. If you feel overwhelmed, remove yourself from the situation you're in, take a break and just sit and be silent. Be aware and learn how your body and emotions are trying to guide you! And most importantly, be honest with yourself. A lot of the time we will ignore our intuition out of fear of failure, fear of heartbreak, fear of saying no or just fear of changing directions in life. Trust yourself!


Tammie Lee said...

Intuitions is not only helpful, holds wisdom, life saving, it also presents the magic of life. A life long spiritual journey to be aware of intuition and then to learn to honor it.

Something I often think of around fear: it is based on our imagination, not something that is actually happening to us. About things that might happen. If something was actually happening.... we would take action, not just feel fear. Just another thought to add to all of yours.

Rain said...

Wonderful Tammie!! Fear can be based on if ever you're in a situation where someone is definitely intent on harming you, you feel fear. But oh my gosh, and I can only speak for myself, a lot of my fear is based on the UNKNOWN...Why do I fear this?? The unknown may be negative, but why not imagine it as a positive?? It seems odd to me that I am programmed that way, being the positive person I am these days! :)

Pam said...

Yep...I have those GUT feelings and I try my best to act on them but sometimes later I ask was it really the way I should have went. Like I have said in my blog, I get signs, pretty sure I do, but I don't always see them. Mom sent the red bird the day of her funeral cause she knew I would not notice unless it was a male, bright red bird! One time I got a sign, my gut said go for it and I wished I had not. Worst yr of my life but during that time I was allowed to pay my house off so I could retire so maybe it was right....that is one of those things that could go one way or the other.

Susan Kane said...

Gut feelings are often ignored because people are too proud to admit to that sense.
Great expression of what we all feel.
What I feel.

wyomingheart said...

When we take the time to listen to those intuitive moments, it could be a real lifesaver! I was given a very strong message before Hurricane Charlie hit. We were living on Charlotte Harbor and took a direct hit. If it had not been for intuition screaming at me, I am not sure we would have survived. Our house was trashed and we prayed for 2 hours in the bathroom, and it took a long time to get over the fear that we were going to die. I have never questioned that intuition message. Love the photo of the deer in the woods. Spectacular!

Fundy Blue said...

Hi, Rain! I am really enjoying these posts (Thanks for the link, btw). One fitness/health goal I'm focusing on is listening to my body, which for decades I didn't do, and I paid big time. I am highly intuitive, and it has saved me from major, major mistakes. I've learned to trust my intuition. The photo from Mount Orford is magnificent!

Rain said...

Hi Pam :) I think that gut feelings are there for a reason. To help guide us to make the right decisions for ourselves. I honestly have never had a gut feeling that steered me wrong, but I do remember times when I ignored them and it was really bad. I was visiting a house in the middle of nowhere. The owner had an "in law" house that was about 30 feet from his. It was so nice, in the woods, really quiet. But he gave me the heebie jeebies...I ignored my gut feeling and rented it. But within a month I was pulling a midnight move because he'd scared me too much, showing up at my door at all hours, drunk. Trying to come into the basement with his keys in the middle of the night. I looked out my bedroom window once and he was sitting right there with a beer in his hand. Creepy...I really never ignored my intuition after that!

Rain said...

That's very true Susan, well said! :) False pride isn't a good thing...

Rain said...

Hi Dino :) That's really scary...I'm SO GLAD you listened to your intuition! My gosh...that's a life changer. Thanks for sharing your story! Oh that deer...she was so sweet to look at, never feared me, looked at me now and then, then just scooted away. It was a blessing to see her!! :)

Rain said...

Hi Louise :) That's great that you trust your intuition! I do to - NOW. I never used to, I always thought "this can't be right" hindsight I could have saved myself a lot of struggle had I listened! But the saying goes, I wouldn't be who I am today right? :)

Magic Love Crow said...

Yes, trust your intuition! Trust your heart! Trust your soul! Big Hugs!

Rain said...

I agree Stacy :)